Jan. 5, 2023

How to Reach Your Goals in 2023


2023 is here! Chances are you’ve been thinking about what you’d like to leave behind in 2022 and what you’d like to see happen for yourself in the new year. I want you to feel clarity about your goals and help you have an understanding about how to achieve them. In the episode, I am sharing my best thoughts on how to clear the way so that you can achieve your aspirations easily and swiftly… while releasing blame and resistance, taking responsibility, and most importantly, nurturing and caring for yourself so you can fully support yourself and realize your goals.

Timestamps:
• [3:23] Dr. Li’s tip #1 to reach your goals: “Avoid looking for blame.”
• [4:50] “Don’t look at this tip as a ticket to freedom, look at it as the ticket to clarity.”
• [6:18] Christine discusses the best ways you can plan to get out of your own way.
• [11:11] Dr. Li wants you to take a look at your thoughts and identify where your resistance is.

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Transcript

Christine Li  0:00  
Welcome back to the Make Time for Success podcast. This, ladies and gentlemen, is the beginning of season 3 of the podcast. And this is episode number 108. 

Well, 2023 has just begun. And chances are, if you're like just about everyone, you're thinking about what you want to say goodbye to, and leave behind in 2022. And what you'd like to see happen for yourself in the new year. And I thought I would help you out just a bit by compiling my best thoughts on how to clear the way so that you can get your goals easily, smoothly and quickly, while also teaching yourself how to support yourself fully. I think so often, people have goals, but they don't have a way of supporting themselves through the goal seeking process. And then we ended up feeling frustrated, we ended up feeling dejected, we ended up feeling like we're not good enough. And I'd say let's get rid of those feelings in 2023. And instead, let's see our road as paved with possibility with our talent, with opportunity. And with a lot of fun, we're gonna have fun this year. I just know it, I can't wait to support you through this podcast. And I thank you for supporting me in this podcast effort that I've got going for this year, too. Let's go enjoy this episode. And then let's all go get those big goals that we have. Because really, everything is doable this year. Let's go.

Hi, I'm Dr. Christine Li, and I'm a psychologist and a procrastination coach. I've helped 1000s of people move past procrastination and overwhelm so they can begin working to their potential. In this podcast, you're going to learn a powerful strategies for getting your mind, body and energy to work together so that you can focus on what's really important, and accomplish the goals you want to achieve. When you start living within your full power, you're going to see how being productive can be easy, and how you can create success on demand. Welcome to the Make Time for Success podcast. 

Hi, my friends, welcome to the year 2023. I'm so glad you're starting it off with the Make Time for Success podcast. And me, I'm so honored to have you as a listener and to have this opportunity to talk to you today about how to reach your goals in 2023. I think goal setting and goal planning and productivity are topics that are near and dear to my heart. But I also think there are some ins and outs that we sometimes bypass and we forget. And when we don't implement these really important pieces to goal getting. We then end up missing our goals. And then we end up feeling frustrated. And I want to help you feel really clear about your goals, and really clear about how to get them this year. So let's start. I have five major topics to discuss today with some subtopics within each topic, and let's just get going now, the first topic is important, I want you to avoid looking for blame. Instead of blaming the attack. Instead of blaming your finances. Instead of blaming your low energy or your lack of time. I want you to just make a rule for yourself this year, that you're not going to look for blame. You're not going to try to blame your lack of results on something, some event or someone. Instead, you're just going to take blanket responsibility for everything that transpires whether it's good or not good. It's all on you. But in a good way. Because when you're not looking all around you for things to blame or excuses to get you out of something, then you know what happens? You end up being much more focused and much more powerful in your goal, reaching efforts because it is all on you. Because there really isn't anyone that's really to blame if you're not getting to your goal. So straighten up your perspective, release the need to blame other people or blame other factors. And I think you'll find that you'll have much more clarity about what you need to do in order to actually get your goal so don't look at This tip is like, Oh, well, now I'm in trouble if I can't blame anyone look at it as a ticket to freedom that you really can actually take responsibility for the most important things in your life and forgetting your own goals to happen. 

The second tip that I have for you is to replace that blame searching energy, with energy of finding clarity for yourself, instead, figure out why you're looking for this goal, figure out why this goal is important to you figure out why you're the person who needs to get this goal done. Figure out why it's important that you do it this year instead of next year. Why now? Figure out why it's important to the world. Why should other people care if they should care that you get your goal done this year, as well. So look for that clarity that will keep you steady in your efforts. Because if it's a big goal, likely, it's going to take lots of different mini steps, micro steps along the way. And you want to always remember what your why is why did you pick this goal? Why is it important to you? Why now? And why do you need to stay consistent until the end. 

The third tip that I have for you is really, really, really important. I think it's very much what I like to specialize in when I help my clients. And that is helping people to learn how to get out of their own way. So the third tip for you is to figure out the best ways that you can plan to get out of your own way in 2023. And I have some examples for you. You can decide for yourself, in what way can I make myself more consistent this year, instead of going to the refrigerator every time I'm bored or frustrated or confused, maybe I can just stay the course. Instead of deciding I'm going to skip the gym this year, I'm going to make a plan with my friends, to meet up at the gym, those kinds of plans, you want to make sure that consistency is a no brainer for you, you want to set those weekly dates, you want to mark those times in your planner and make sure you show up for yourself. So decide how you're going to stay consistent for yourself this year. And when you stay consistent, the results are better you see improvement, you see pride in yourself, you see people noticing that you're showing up all the time, there are lots of benefits to upping your consistency. 

Another tip for how you can get out of your own way is that you can take some time, and work on strategies for strengthening your focus and your energy. So that might be going to the gym that might be eating better that might be ridding your diet of junk foods, it might be getting a couple more hours of sleep every night, it could be just doing some deep breathing in the middle of the day. But you have to come up with your own strategies for ensuring that you don't run through the day feeling like a stress case that you don't feel like you're the worst person for this job. You want to make sure that your focus and energy are intact, ready to go ready to support you through any difficulty through any challenge and definitely through to your end goals. Another tip that I have for you for getting out of your own way is to implement processes that make things easier for you. A couple of days ago, I decided that I was going to do 100 days of strength training just by myself. Not even 100 days in a row. But I just came up with that number. And I told everybody on Instagram stories that I was going to do this. And for me, that was my mini process to keep myself accountable to make the weight training. Not such a big deal. But to also make it a big deal that I'm going to show up for myself. I'm going to show up for my followers on Instagram Stories who are going to watch me go through 100 days of weight training and I imagine that after 100 days of doing weight training, I might feel differently I might be stronger I might look differently even but I know I'm gonna be proud when I reach that number of 100. So think for yourself, what process can you put in place to make sure you show up for yourself to make sure you don't forget what your New Year's goals and your New Year's resolutions are. Another tip that I have for you is about coming indication, what do you need to communicate with to make sure that you have an easier time or a more fun time heading towards your goals, it might be your children, you might need to ask them to be more timely or to be neater in the house or something like that. It might be your co workers, you might need them to leave you alone after lunch, because that's the time that you've decided is going to be your go time, your highly productive time, where you actually can't lose that time, for lack of a better way of saying it, you can't lose that time socializing, because that's your Tiger time. That's your time when you're most focused. So you might need to communicate with your co workers to make sure you get your goals, you won't have to lose out on socializing, because you could socialize in the morning, or at nighttime or on the weekends with your friends and your co workers. So allow yourself to set some boundaries so that you can have more time have more focus, have more energy, to get to your goals and so that you don't get in your own way.

Now, major Tip number four for you for reaching goals in 2023, is I want you to take a look at what you're thinking and what your resistance is, when it comes to thinking about the big goals you have for this year. What makes you feel like you just want to give up what makes you feel like, it's just a little bit too difficult or a little bit too outlandish for you to get or maybe it's a little bit too bold for you to even think of reaching and getting in 2023. And I want you to identify your fear and resistance. But then I also want you to neutralize that fear and resistance so that you have a much better chance of beating it. Because when it comes down to it, it's like I said in tip number one, you need to take responsibility for owning this as your goal and owning your process. That it's really you, nobody's really going to block you. And that's a interesting lesson to learn in life that nobody's really out to block you, in terms of you getting to your goals. So if you're facing your own resistance, let's take that seriously. Let's not make excuses around it anymore. Let's not eat our way around our goals anymore. Let's just decide, You know what, I'm an adult, I'm taking responsibility. This goal is really important to me. I know why I'm doing this goal. I've made a plan for it. Now, why is it still difficult for me to show up for myself, and do that deeper work with yourself. If you're having trouble doing that deeper work, I encourage you to get support, get professional help. Get a mentor, get a coach, get a therapist, get a friend, get someone who's not you, to help you to beat your resistance, because your resistance is your mind and body trying to keep you safe. But you have to decide that you are safe. And that what will make you even safer is actually getting yourself into action and getting towards your goals. The fifth tip that I have for you, the big tip that I have for you for getting your goals in 2023 is that I want you to start a new habit, I want you to start seeing everything. And every action that happens in your life, every event as serving you in some way, supporting you in some way. Rather than draining you or taking opportunity away from you. I want you to see the world and your life and your experiences as filled with abundance, a structured by abundance, that everything is workable, that everything is doable, that you can do the things that you want to do. And when you have that stance towards your life and towards your skills and towards your body in mind, I think you turn yourself into a superhero. He's gonna say a super agent, but that's not a thing. A superhero, you become your own best friend, you become your own best tool for getting things done. Big things and small things. It works really well. So I hope you take tip number five of supporting yourself in every way really seriously. I hope 2023 is your best year ever. Or best year yet, I should say because there are great years ahead of you. Still. I want you to believe in yourself. I want you to believe in your opportunities. I want you to build iev that your big, hairy, scary goals are doable this year. And I wish you all the best. I'm here for you all the way. And again, I want to thank you for being here on the Make Time for Success podcast. It's going to be a great year for this podcast to just stick around and watch. Alright, take care. I'll see you guys next week Thursday, when the next episode drops by. 

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